Working with a life coach is a highly personalized experience that involves quality one-on-one time and deep meaningful inquiry. Most people who choose a life coach are not only looking for someone to partner with to relieve and heal emotional pain but also someone who can support them in learning how to do that for themselves. It’s a more powerful and a more intimate process than reading a book or doing an online course. When clients and coaches are matched well, profound life changes take place organically. Emotional health achieved through life coaching helps people move from “I feel bad” toward “I feel free, content and empowered”.
Life Coaching FAQ:
What is life coaching?
Life coaching is a process in which a life coach and a client collaborate together to facilitate the client’s personal transformation towards a healthy, peaceful and wholesome self. Part of this process is getting to examine and understand known and unknown psychological aspects of the client’s self. In time, the client integrates all parts of themselves (the challenging and the pleasant ones) into a developed, functional and harmonious way of being. To integrate means to bring together and make whole.
Who goes to a life coach?
Life coaching clients are often people who seek to understand and resolve the dynamics of their current life situation and challenges. Such individuals have perhaps already tried to find a solution to their current issue on their own and were left with gaps or are feeling stuck. Through one-on-one life coaching clients partner up with their coach to create an individualized approach to their emotional healing. Together they co-create a process that is both effective and feels authentic to the client. Such a program is often built to respect and consider that individual’s beliefs, time and available resources.
Will a life coach tell me what do to?
Contrary to popular belief, working with a life coach is not about being given advice; it’s about learning to create enough stability and trustworthiness within the client, so that they can rely on their own wisdom. The best coaches combine insightful questions with positive self guiding exercises to build new nurturing patterns, release sabotaging behaviors, and implement long-term fulfilling strategies. At first, the coach will act as an accountability partner for the ongoing emotional work. In time, the coach will be needed less and less frequently as the client becomes more and more self reliant.
What is emotional health?
Emotional health is the measure of your emotional well-being at any given moment. Questions that can help you assess your emotional health are:
- Is there a particular emotion that I feel stuck on, overpowered or controlled by?
- Do I engage in self sabotaging behaviors to try to avoid feeling certain feelings because they are “bad”?
- Is fear, anxiety, anger or shame holding me back from exploring a part of life that you feel called to?
We can say we are doing ok emotionally speaking when we can handle experiencing our emotions whether they are pleasant or unpleasant and we know that they will pass. What can get us into trouble is when we notice a particular emotion has settled in and we experience that emotion as a general state of being. When we become identified with our emotions we experience life as a painful roller coaster. If we are angry, anxious all or fearful more often than not then that may be a symptom of an emotional imbalance. Another symptom of emotional unhealthiness is when we try to hide, alter or mask our emotions. This means that we are ashamed of who we are emotionally. This can cause to become addicted to things that temporarily take us our of our feelings.
What do I need to begin my emotional healing process?
This is a very important question to consider. Healing is a natural process that can be further facilitated by removing the things that aggravate it or hinder it. First and foremost what is often needed at the beginning of any personal transformation is willingness, courage, patience and consistency. The willingness part allows each client to open up and look into the intimate parts of themselves that are painful or intimidating. Willingness is what gives clients permission to take care of themselves. Courage is necessary to deal with the times when things are unclear or uncomfortable or when anxiety shows up. Patience is what allows the process to take it’s course and consistency is what fuels it to continue. This is is why having a life coach along side often makes things easier for the client- it’s like having someone else there to offer the support, encouragement and perspective necessary to continue.
How will a life coach help my emotional healing?
A life coach helps their client look at the parts of themselves that are in conflict, that are repressed and rejected and teaches how to recognize them, own them and make peace between them. The result of such a process is incredibly empowering because it frees clients from the inner war and offers them the highly rewarding and productive energy of contentment and balance.
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