There is nothing shameful about needing help. All humans come to a time in their lives when their resources and their knowledge is insufficient to tackle the challenges in front of them. Pride can be one of the biggest obstacles to healing. We must be willing to be so real ourselves as to admit our limitations and our humanity. Only then, can we psychologically make space to receive assistance and allow the helpful powers that live within our psyche to awaken and intervene on our behalf. (Carl Jung, The Collected Works, Vol. 9 pt. 1, p.21)
Sessions – The Process of Emotional Healing with Diana Deaver
Emotional health coaching is helpful for individuals who desire to better understand themselves and the source of their emotional pain. Coaching helps us understand the patterns and choices that influence our everyday lives. Because we all have “blind spots” in our perspectives of ourselves and others, working with a life coach acts as a helpful mirror and as an additional, sometimes vital, point of view. When we invest time and resources in our emotional health we contribute to its expansion and with it, we increase the quality of our intimate (and non-intimate) relationships increases.
1. Preliminary Mutual Interview
Before we begin any work, you have the option of having a preliminary mutual interview with me where we each ask questions of each other and we see if we are a good fit for working together. The preliminary interview is free of charge- it’s a friendly and honest chat and it lasts between 15 and 30 minutes.
As we move forward with your coaching I email you a helpful emotional health questionnaire that can help us get a bit more clarity on what is a priority to address and what are some long term results we want to focus on. This form will also help us get an idea of what are some of the current obstacles to your emotional health and how we can begin creating a support system for you as you begin your emotional healing work.
3. The Begining of a Supported Journey
This is where things begin to feel a bit better and you are no longer alone in your journey. We will discuss the frequency of our sessions and other elements necessary to support you towards your emotional health.
Improving your emotional health is a slow and gradual process that will require your dedication, patience and resilience. For the first part of the journey I will be right next to you and we will work together to ease the symptoms of emotional pain in a doable and effective way. As we move along, you will notice that you are becoming and more comfortable being in charge of your own healing process.
I use a depth psychological approach to coaching that keeps into account the relationship between the conscious and unconscious parts of the psyche. I like to stay sensitive to the fact that each person I work with is completely unique. One of the benefits of one on one coaching is that we can customize each session to match your level of energy of that day, the load of that week or your current emotional charge. In general, I like to look beyond the symptom and see what may be underneath the surface. For example, sometimes what we think is an issue of self-confidence is, in fact, a residue of having been severely shamed in the past. What appears to be working too much is, in fact, an acute emotional need for safety and security. In our sessions, we will look at how our patterns and choices impact us across the many dimensions of our emotional being and will aim to discover the stories underneath the story.
Symptoms commonly addressed during emotional health coaching sessions:
- boundary issues
- limiting thought processes
- dysfunctional relationship dynamics
- high levels of stress
- self-care and self-esteem issues
- emotional numbness/volatility
Emotional health tools commonly explored during life coaching sessions:
- re-calibrating belief systems to support you as opposed to draining you
- emotional resilience tools and healthy coping mechanisms
- self-acceptance and self-compassion tools
- responding as opposed to reacting to triggers and urges
- compassionate communication
- stress management and self-care practices
Sessions with Diana are available in person, over the phone or over Skype.